One of the most used phrases with new moms is, “don’t forget to sleep when baby sleeps”. Most mom’s response to that is, “yeah, right, thanks”.
Why can’t you just sleep when baby sleeps?
- Too much to clean
- Only time to work
- Can’t turn off my brain
- Netflix is calling my name
- Finally alone time
- Feels like insomnia and literally can’t
Most clients I work with have a really hard time getting sleep postpartum. It is important to remember that your body is actually in fight/flight mode. It just went through a traumatic event (no matter how easy your labor/delivery was). We have to let our bodies know that it is ok to let our guard down and rest.
In the early weeks of postpartum, sleep is crucial to healing. Here are some tips to get sleep in.
- The first 2-3 weeks don’t leave the bed but to eat or go to the bathroom
- Have baby sleep in your room by your bed
- Set up your room to have everything you may need for yourself and baby
- Ask for help…and ask for MORE help!
- Have your partner bring baby to you and put them back, especially at night
- Listen to calming music/podcasts or read instead of shows
- Set goals for sleep and stick to them.
After the first 2-3 weeks slowly increase your time out of bed.
I know you may be reading this and thinking…yeah right. Trust me, I know it is easier said than done. I remember those early days with a newborn who wasn’t latching, I had a traumatic birth, and some how I ended up spending my first day home from the hospital at Christmas eve dinner at my parents home with my whole family. I wasn’t even able to sit yet. I clearly did not set very good boundaries and was having a bit of fomo.
By the time my second kid rolled around 18 months later, I tried to set up a lot more boundaries. I wanted to prioritized my health and healing. However, a week after my daughter was born, my dad was rushed to the ICU for a sudden on set of aggressive leukemia. I ended up being left without outside support once again. Thankfully, my husband is amazing. He worked from home, helped me by bringing the baby to me each time it was needed, and we prioritized my health.
By focusing on rest and healing the first 2-3 weeks you will be able get moving quicker and feel more rested. This also increases the bond with your baby, encourages healthy nursing/eating habits, and for the baby to begin adjusting her day/night schedule. I know it isn’t easy. I know there will be arguments, tears, frustrations, and feelings of loneliness but you got this. It WILL pass.
If you need help applying this to your actual life??? E-mail me livingsatisfied@gmail.com I have a variety of consultations available for my clients and together we can find one that fits you whether you need 1 or 2 consultations or 10. I can help you get you where you need to be.
Bio: My name is Ellie Kinard an NTP and Doula who helps pregnant and postpartum women with their holistic care needs. I am based out of Nashville, TN but work virtually across the country! Check out my website or find me on Instagram @livingsatisfied
